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42 Openers to Use on Girls When Online Dating

Tailoring messages to each girl's profile is the way to go. Bring it up to her casually. It's the only way you separate yourself after you qualify on her acceptable looks scale. How to make your profile intrigue, your photos slay and your openers zing?

AppNexus This is an ad network. The philosopher has given you some great openers which I have tried myself and had continued success with. No judgment either way Travel makes an especially strong conversational opener because most women enjoy dreaming about exotic destinations.

15. You can smell the desperation - This eliminates any confusion that could put you in the friend zone.

I know this has been discussed on the ok cupid thread but that thread is vast and a summary on this specific question would be useful. When you are sending out a first message on an online dating site, what are proven, tried and tested first messages? I know some mention of something specific on their profile would be good but the guys who are good at this must at least has some set templates that they can riff or improvise on. I've thought about this a lot. I don't think there's going to be any one magic universal opener that will blow the doors off any and every girl. There's so much variation in personalities that every chic may react differently. Some girls respond well to complimentary openers, some don't. Some respond well to cocky, edgy openers some see right through that and call you out. Ultimately 90% of it comes down to what you look like. This is why I prefer Tinder over OKC. Just cuts the bullshit since all that matters most the time is your look. I will say this though, if it's a dating site that has in its messaging service a subject line, I like to put a cliff hanger in there as a way of practically guaranteeing she reads my message. I use to have an OKC and POF account. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. I guess they always replied so that they could validate themselves somewhat so that they don't feel guilty or racist if they didn't reply. Idk tho but it always got them to reply. Which is all you need to get the ball rollin. And I sent that to EVERY girl. Black, white, orange whatever. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. I guess they always replied so that they could validate themselves somewhat so that they don't feel guilty or racist if they didn't reply. Idk tho but it always got them to reply. Which is all you need to get the ball rollin. And I sent that to EVERY girl. Black, white, orange whatever. I wonder what the reaction will be if a white guy like me sends it. Agree with El Mech - wit matters. It's the only way you separate yourself after you qualify on her acceptable looks scale. If you do have an opener for online that works. DON'T post it on an open forum..! Many examples of guys putting lines up on here and within days being called out for it because every third message she receives is your own opener.. Stupid shit is second only to clever shit online. A quick cold-read of their ethnic background works decently for me at getting replies. Short brunettes are usually Italian by me. Some look Eastern European. Doesn't really matter if you're right or not. Short brunettes are usually Italian by me. Some look Eastern European. Doesn't really matter if you're right or not. I like this one from the web site: What do i have to do to get on your drunk dial list? I actually read their profile and respond to something I find interesting about it. In a seller's market like this it's best to let the ladies shop for you online. The OKCupid math dude proved that. All the work he put in and the one that messaged him he girlfriended up. I need to put up some better quality pics. It's kinda hard when you're interests are programming, drinking and trolling forums. Recently I've been accusing them of looking like trouble. The Reverse Taylor Swift. I've gotten good response rates. The best advice is know your audience. The message that you write for a party skank is different from an artsy girl is different from a corporate drone, etc. Wit plays well regardless, but fine-tuning your messages improve your response rate. Within those categories, I've observed some patterns for success. Party slut- Here's where being suggestive in your messages plays very well. Bold is best for them. Artsy- Off-beat humor works very well for this category. They usually have longer profiles, so look for something for an original joke. Drone- this is the hardest for me because these girls want to keep everything boring and their profiles give you nothing to work with. I try to pick out one incongruent detail and hope that she will emerge from her shell. I go back and forth on whether asking a question or making a statement is a better opener. I just try to get their attention in the first message instead of writing a long winded specific message about something in their profile. They will usually check me out and not respond. Then I'll call them out on it and they respond. Maybe there's a way to get the to respond to a first message, but I think they have a lot of anxiety about in general. Tailoring messages to each girl's profile is the way to go. However, if you're doing mass messaging like I do then you simply can't take the time do break down each girl's profile unless you want to make an afternoon out of it. What are you up to? She had like 5-6 lines total on OKC but it doesn't matter. I'm not going to say these lines always work, but I don't think any line does. Girl's who visit your profile are much more inclined to want to meet, because they clicked on you for a reason i. You're attractive, in their age range, and live near them. Which brings me to my last point. As others have mentioned, it really comes down to looks. That's why I stay away from the cute, silly openers. It feels incongruent to me. No girl is going to want to go out with some weird looking guy just because he has a witty opener. They will usually check me out and not respond. Then I'll call them out on it and they respond. Maybe there's a way to get the to respond to a first message, but I think they have a lot of anxiety about in general. I never bothered with the girls that check my profile and then didn't reply. I've used this on a lot of sciencey types going for their PhDs and Masters. Think Cornell, MIT, and Harvard. Quote:So a Higgs Boson walks into a church. Just know your audience.